Lumps,bumps and the art of not giving a crap

Belfast, Personal, Plus size, Positivity

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My love my love my love my love
You love my lady lumps- Fergie

I know, I know how elegant a title you are probably now wondering to what level of Shakespearean quality am I about to type, what beautiful sonnet doth my hands yearn to type but alas that is not my style. Instead I decided to begin with a Fergie lyric. I wanted to update you all on my journey in the last couple of years of self acceptance leading to self love. Believe me if there was a ten step programme to this then I would be currently typing in my own private yacht on the outskirts of some beautiful Greek island, This journey is totally different for everyone involved. For some it will take years whilst others might reach their temporary end point much sooner and what is so crucial is that we learn to not measure our own growth against others.

I call it a temporary end because I truly believe that I dont think that we ever finished with self love and acceptance because as we age change and develop so to do our feelings and emotional requirements. T-j in 2017 is a totally different creature than T-j of 2007 full of different needs and emotions and it is so important to learn to adapt to that need. What reignited this interest for me was recently I have been have several different conversations with girls I know through social media, in real life and everything in between about a variety of topics which all centre around the theme of self love.

To get started my core principal all revolves around the art of not actually giving a crap about the option of others, within reason. I dont advocate being ignorant or knowingly rude however it is your life, look and body and you are the only one you have to make happy. If you like it wear it, it you want bright yellow hair then bleach it. I understand all of this is easier said than done and it is hard if maybe those around you aren’t supportive of your decisions, you come up against work constraints or whatever it may be but as long as it doesn’t negatively impact you then what do you have to lose? the experimentation stage doesn’t end when your teenage years do. If you want to experiment go for it ! The key to it is to not place excess credit in others.  Something I struggled with massively is the concept of if you dont see it then you can’t be it. Growing up there were not alot of plus-size people in the media. The plus-size character in a show was the funny one, a one dimensional character who didn’t get to add alot to the plot of the show, and don’t get me started on the lack of any plus-size models on the scene I saw Crystal Renn during her plus-size heyday when I was in my mid teens but at that point I had already spent 14 years as a tall, chunky, ginger so I had began to develop my own sense of self. I mean I had no confidence but I was developing my “style.”

These days I would definitely say I have found a way to be happy and comfortable in my own skin. Don’t get me wrong I have off days that is 100% normal but now I place my measure in how something makes me feel as opposed to worrying if it is going to be liked by others, for example this look. If you had told me even 6 months ago I would be parading around Belfast in a mesh top with a bralet I would have called you crazy. Now  it doesn’t fill me with dread I was actually super in to this look and decided to shoot it in several of my favourite locations.

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 I want to continue with this series of talking more openly and creating the coversation about body image on this platform so please do let me know what topics you would like me to cover. 

OUTFIT DETAILS

Mesh top- Ebay

Bralette- New Look Curves

Culottes- Primark

Trainers- Primark

Denim Jacket- Primark

My Soul- Primark

 

 

BYTAYLORJAYNE

STYLED: Floral Botanical

Belfast, Fashion, feminism, Outfit of the day, Personal, Plus size, Positivity, Self love, streetstyle, Style

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I remember the way that we touched I wish I didn’t like it so much
I get so emotional, baby
Every time I think of you
I get so emotional, baby
Ain’t it shocking what love can do

Location: Botanic Gardens Belfast

Suprise its me !

I am back with a new attitude, new look and new approach. Getting back into blogging and reinventing myself on my social medias really helped me get back to the core of why I began blogging and vlogging back in 2008/2009 and more recently I have really got happier in accepting my approach to the whole thing. I am here for me, I am here for fun and I am here because I feel like I still want to share my opinion and voice my thoughts and feelings.

A few recent physical changes are that after vowing not to dye my hair and to grow it out I cut off 2 inches, bleached it and coloured it neon pink and orange ( directions hairdye is the bomb.com) and I couldn’t be happier.

Also my obsession with Rupauls drag race is now probably blindingly obvious, I was team sasha from day one and SPOILER ALERT I was so happy that beauty be damned and monsters reign for this next year!

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If you want to join the revolution: innovate, that’s my solution!

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Rings- Topshop Finer range £3 each in Sale 

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Even though I am trying to come back again with a new attitude I still cannot not use my favourite location of Botanic gardens. I knew that the rose garden would probaby be in bloom by now and I think Sashas lipsync was so strongly in my mind that I had to recreate it for the blog!

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Details:

Distressed boyfriend denim jacket- Primark new season

Black shirt dress- Primark

Trainers- JD sports

Chub rub shorts- Evans

Glasses- Specsavers Horace frames ( from the mens section !)

 

PHOTOGRAPHY AS ALWAYS BY MY MUM 

BYTAYLORJAYNE

STYLED: Underpasses

Belfast, Fashion, photography, Plus size, streetstyle

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“She is a figure of legend and fairy tale, one to be taken seriously, or she might knock you off your feet with a quick whirl of the staff she carries everywhere.”
Claire Wong, The Runaway

Location: Wine shipment direct building 

Another week passes and another dodgy car park in the back end of Belfast city centre is seemingly the ideal location to shoot my outfit. I have to say that the inspiration behind this was totally down to seeing local stylist Eve Brannon shooting here earlier in the week, as soon as I saw her instagram post about it I knew I had to go for myself.  The Legend wall was created by the #BelfastBanksy Glen Mollloy Creative and features ten images of legends both alive and dead.

Finding new locations is pretty difficult I mean Belfast is such an incredible location in itself my issue is nearly always trying to find locations that are accessible to someone who doesn’t drive. Instagram and social media in general is such an incredible tool as I follow so many local creatives it is great to be able to see what is inspiring those around me and trying to create my own original concepts using influence I take from those who inspire me, I have an ode to instagram post planned for the upcoming months so stay tuned for that!

IMG_8396I’m the dandy highwayman so sick of easy fashion
the clumsy boots, peek-a-boo roots that people think so dashing

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MINI STORY: One thing I love about shooting out and about on the streets of Belfast is the reaction of those around for example shooting on an electrical box in a dodgy car park the loveliest women came up and asked mum and I if we wanted her to photograph us together, I dont think she really understood why we would choose this location and its pretty difficult to explain blogging to someone who has no idea at all what it is.

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Details:

Distressed denim jacket- Primark new season

Black dip hem dress- super old Evans clothing

Fishnets- Primark

Khaki Boots- Primark

Chub rub shorts- Evans ( you will understand if you see the P.s Pick!)

Glasses- Specsavers Horace frames ( from the mens section !)

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International Women’s Day #beboldforchange

Belfast, event, feminism, inspirations, Personal, photography, Positivity, womens rights

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“We cannot all succeed when half of us are held back.” – Malala Yousafzai

On March 8th it is International Women’s Day. 

“Call on the masses or call on yourself to help forge a better working world – a more gender inclusive world.”

Every year the day has an official theme and this year the theme fell under the title of be bold for change. It was a call to have women all over the world pledge to do something to help change.

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Thank you to these girls for allowing me to photograph them and their message 🙂 

I am not sure how many of you are from Ireland North or South but one uniting factor is the lack of Abortion laws which are in place in either country, I can only speak from the perspective as someone who has grown up in Northern Ireland so that is how I will base my writings. I have never previously shied away from talking about big topics because I am a firm believer that if you choose to put yourself out there on a social platform that you also should use your platform to discuss openly and honestly about topics that affect you.

I will however preface my opinion by saying that I understand that the vast majority of the population will have a total opposing opinion to my own and that it is ok as long as everyone is respectful of everyone else it is important to have open and challenging conversations as I believe that is how we make and affect change by being opening and honest in our discussions. 

In Northern Ireland women can still face 14 years in prison for supplying or being found in possession of drugs which cause an abortion. 14 years , I can’t even let that sink in enough. In the mainland UK women have rights and access yet in Northern Ireland we are simply left with no rights and that scares me.  I have to be responsible for my own body, sort my own birth control, work through periods and all the crap that comes along with that yet at the end of the day my reproductive rights are not my own.

Yesterday a peaceful protest  in aid of Strike for Repeal was held at the front of Belfast city hall to show solidarity with our sisters in the South of Ireland who were also holding a rally to Repeal the 8th amendment which makes abortion illegal. in 2017 we have no rights over our own bodies which is why is it crucial that we still must go out and protest this law because our Government will not help us. I could write about all the issues with Northern Ireland and our government but I will save that for another day.

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What you notice on days of protest is the spirit of everyone there, we are optimistic, and seeing others standing up for what you also believe in is so inspiring. It is my opinion that we need to legalise abortion in order to give it the protection that women deserve when they are having to make this decision. Abortion has always happened and will always happen so having the protection of the NHS or other clinics ensures that we do not have to listen to any more horror stories of women having to travel to the UK mainland in order to go through the procedure. Women are more than just a vessel to make children and our government happily gives more rights to that then they do to the women who have to go through it , not taking into consideration the physical or mental well being of the women.

At the protest I witnessed a man come up right into the face of a women standing with a banner and aggressively argue her that her banner which included the Uterus offended him. When she asked him to remove himself from her face as he was becoming more and more aggressive he turned to the crowd and screamed that we all must just be a bunch of lesbians. That is nothing else perfectly illustrates the mindsets and views that we still find ourselves regularly coming up against. Your opinion is invalid and worthy of being shut down because of a the outdated and naive angry lesbian feminist stereotype that time and time again is used to label us.

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If I can make one crucial one out of all of this it is this, even if my opinion is not yours. You may not agree with what I stand for nor do you have to but I urge you that when you see an opportunity to take to the streets and count for something that you find the time to do so. It might be a rally  or signing a petition, it might be sharing something on Facebook or another platform. it might be defending you opinion to a random person you encounter in life. Please be respectful and stay safe but above all your opinion is valid you are allowed to show how you feel and you do not have to sit back and take something because it has always been that way. You and your opinion are valid and worthy.

Last year I attended a huge march to protest the laws and this year this is the first but probably not the last rally or march that will be held. Our latest vote in Northern Ireland gives you a small glimmer of hope that we will cling to.

Big issues are not going away and we will not walk away and let the government have the rights to our bodies.

We are here, we wont go away and you will listen to us. 

#BEBOLDFORCHANGE#BEBOLDFORCHANGE#BEBOLDFORCHANGE

BYTAYLORJAYNE