Lumps,bumps and the art of not giving a crap

Belfast, Personal, Plus size, Positivity

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My love my love my love my love
You love my lady lumps- Fergie

I know, I know how elegant a title you are probably now wondering to what level of Shakespearean quality am I about to type, what beautiful sonnet doth my hands yearn to type but alas that is not my style. Instead I decided to begin with a Fergie lyric. I wanted to update you all on my journey in the last couple of years of self acceptance leading to self love. Believe me if there was a ten step programme to this then I would be currently typing in my own private yacht on the outskirts of some beautiful Greek island, This journey is totally different for everyone involved. For some it will take years whilst others might reach their temporary end point much sooner and what is so crucial is that we learn to not measure our own growth against others.

I call it a temporary end because I truly believe that I dont think that we ever finished with self love and acceptance because as we age change and develop so to do our feelings and emotional requirements. T-j in 2017 is a totally different creature than T-j of 2007 full of different needs and emotions and it is so important to learn to adapt to that need. What reignited this interest for me was recently I have been have several different conversations with girls I know through social media, in real life and everything in between about a variety of topics which all centre around the theme of self love.

To get started my core principal all revolves around the art of not actually giving a crap about the option of others, within reason. I dont advocate being ignorant or knowingly rude however it is your life, look and body and you are the only one you have to make happy. If you like it wear it, it you want bright yellow hair then bleach it. I understand all of this is easier said than done and it is hard if maybe those around you aren’t supportive of your decisions, you come up against work constraints or whatever it may be but as long as it doesn’t negatively impact you then what do you have to lose? the experimentation stage doesn’t end when your teenage years do. If you want to experiment go for it ! The key to it is to not place excess credit in others.  Something I struggled with massively is the concept of if you dont see it then you can’t be it. Growing up there were not alot of plus-size people in the media. The plus-size character in a show was the funny one, a one dimensional character who didn’t get to add alot to the plot of the show, and don’t get me started on the lack of any plus-size models on the scene I saw Crystal Renn during her plus-size heyday when I was in my mid teens but at that point I had already spent 14 years as a tall, chunky, ginger so I had began to develop my own sense of self. I mean I had no confidence but I was developing my “style.”

These days I would definitely say I have found a way to be happy and comfortable in my own skin. Don’t get me wrong I have off days that is 100% normal but now I place my measure in how something makes me feel as opposed to worrying if it is going to be liked by others, for example this look. If you had told me even 6 months ago I would be parading around Belfast in a mesh top with a bralet I would have called you crazy. Now  it doesn’t fill me with dread I was actually super in to this look and decided to shoot it in several of my favourite locations.

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 I want to continue with this series of talking more openly and creating the coversation about body image on this platform so please do let me know what topics you would like me to cover. 

OUTFIT DETAILS

Mesh top- Ebay

Bralette- New Look Curves

Culottes- Primark

Trainers- Primark

Denim Jacket- Primark

My Soul- Primark

 

 

BYTAYLORJAYNE

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STYLED: Floral Botanical

Belfast, Fashion, feminism, Outfit of the day, Personal, Plus size, Positivity, Self love, streetstyle, Style

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I remember the way that we touched I wish I didn’t like it so much
I get so emotional, baby
Every time I think of you
I get so emotional, baby
Ain’t it shocking what love can do

Location: Botanic Gardens Belfast

Suprise its me !

I am back with a new attitude, new look and new approach. Getting back into blogging and reinventing myself on my social medias really helped me get back to the core of why I began blogging and vlogging back in 2008/2009 and more recently I have really got happier in accepting my approach to the whole thing. I am here for me, I am here for fun and I am here because I feel like I still want to share my opinion and voice my thoughts and feelings.

A few recent physical changes are that after vowing not to dye my hair and to grow it out I cut off 2 inches, bleached it and coloured it neon pink and orange ( directions hairdye is the bomb.com) and I couldn’t be happier.

Also my obsession with Rupauls drag race is now probably blindingly obvious, I was team sasha from day one and SPOILER ALERT I was so happy that beauty be damned and monsters reign for this next year!

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If you want to join the revolution: innovate, that’s my solution!

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Rings- Topshop Finer range £3 each in Sale 

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Even though I am trying to come back again with a new attitude I still cannot not use my favourite location of Botanic gardens. I knew that the rose garden would probaby be in bloom by now and I think Sashas lipsync was so strongly in my mind that I had to recreate it for the blog!

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Details:

Distressed boyfriend denim jacket- Primark new season

Black shirt dress- Primark

Trainers- JD sports

Chub rub shorts- Evans

Glasses- Specsavers Horace frames ( from the mens section !)

 

PHOTOGRAPHY AS ALWAYS BY MY MUM 

BYTAYLORJAYNE

STYLED: In Disguise

Fashion, Outfit of the day, Personal, photography, Plus size, Positivity, Self love

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“Some of the best things that have ever happened to us wouldn’t have happened to us, if it weren’t for some of the worst things that have ever happened to us.”
Mokokoma Mokhonoana

Location: Belvoir Forest

So its been a while…

I don’t really have a reason or excuse except for sometimes life just gets a bit busy. I am going to try to get back into the swing of things, so I am beginning with a series of images that I took about two months ago now. Belvior forest is only about 30 minutes from my own house but as I stated in the last post it is somewhere I always forget about. It is such a beautiful place and I would defiantly recommend it for an afternoon stroll.

So I bought this camouflage jacket about 6 or more years ago from the army surplus shop in Smithfield market in Belfast when camouflage was having its first big popular moment. I remember at the time the owner of the had a print out of a ASOS listing and he was so proud that he was offering the same jackets for a tenner. Now camo is having a second fling at being super popular and I have whipped it out again.

 

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MAJOR DRUNK EYES ALERT 

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Details:

Camo jacket- Army Surplus

Pinafore dress- New Look Curves

Shirt- Evans

Tights- Primark

Runners- Primark

BYTAYLORJAYNE 

Chapter 24

Personal, Positivity, Self love

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‘You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ Eleanor Roosevelt

Day One of being 23

welcome to chapter 24 of the book we call T-J.I have previously written posts on turning 22 and 23 so i thought I would keep up traditions and write a post about my thoughts and feelings about becoming 24.

Now that I am 24  I can officially say that I have been blogging, vlogging or putting myself online in some form or another for the last eight years which is mind-blowing really, I was an completely different person at sixteen than I am now. It is crazy to think it has been so long because the whole thing has been such a journey from somewhere where all my confidence was a show to now where I can say I am confident and truly happy.  It is so true when people say fake it till you make it because this is so true of my own confidence journey, maybe some would disagree but I would say that I have always tried to give off vibes of being super confident even on days when it is easier said than done.

It took me such a long time to be happy with my personal style, I spent far too long hiding behind all black outfits in an attempt to sink into the back ground but these days I am all about shorter dresses, fishnets and metallic everything. I don’t want to give the impression however that any of this is easy because trust and believe me when I said it is the hardest thing you can do however it is the most worthwhile thing. You are in your body for your entire life and the moment you make it a happy place to be is the moment you let more important decisions happen.

It is so easy to look back on your life and only focus on the negative, times where you allowed your mental illnesses to take hold and dictate your every move. Times when you surrounded yourself with s many “friends” because you thought it was a numbers game instead of quality over quantity,  times where the decisions you made where more to ensure that you kept others happy instead of taking your own feelings into consideration. Never EVER feel guilty or selfish for taking the me time that we all need, a walk by yourself, a solo coffee date or really just anything which makes you feel better. It is so important to take the me time call seriously.

23 was stressful, fulfilling, exciting, scary, happy, eventful and everything in between but for me it was the most me I have ever been and if I take one thing into chapter 24 it would be to never stop being 1000% me , flabby bits and all

BYTAYLORJAYNE

STYLED: Girls Just wanna have Fun

Fashion, Outfit of the day, Personal, photography, Plus size, streetstyle, Style

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“Feminism isn’t about making women strong. Women are already strong. It’s about changing the way the world perceives that strength.” —G.D. Anderson

Location: Sunflower Bar Belfast

Sticking with this weeks theme of International Women’s Day I have another graffiti based outfit. Again this yellow jacket that hasn’t left my body since I bought it was the inspiration but the rest of the look and post all came together by chance. I knew that alongside central library there was a particular yellow wall that I wanted to shoot against but then spending five minutes exploring the area I came across probably easily my new favourite piece by French lady graffiti artist Kashink.

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GIRLS JUST WANNA HAVE FUN…DAMENTAL RIGHTS !!! ( Insert 100 flame emojis because that is the type of person I am)

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For me another major event that I followed recently was the women’s marches all over America the day after Cheeto potato man became their president. One story that immediately got me hooked was the flash mob led by LA based singer MILCK  the song connected me in a way I haven’t found I have come across in a long time. It was one of those moments that I get in life that was along the lines of, this is my new battle cry and I need this permanently put onto my body asap! Maybe most people don’t react to things in that way but I do so I booked in with one of the best tattoo lady I have come across, Caila Dagger who is based out of A sailors grave in Belfast ( Please check them out HERE  the are a bad-ass bunch of phenomenal tattooers!) .What makes this tattoo even more special to me is that I reached out to Connie aka MILCK on twitter. It is was the night before my appointment and I was finalising the font choice, I decided to try my luck and tweet her asking her to put it into her own handwriting and to my delight she was so excited about the prospect and sent me a bunch of designs. My mum also go the same tattoo and we both agreed immediately on this version of the quote, ONE WOMAN RIOT. My right arm is a scrapbook of memories and the quote just seemed to fill the space between a coat hanger and a canary perfectly.I intend to one day do a post about all my tattoos but that is for another day once I have a few smaller fillers added!

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“I can’t keep quite, A one woman riot!”

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Details:

Yellow Faux leather Jacket- New look

Nirvana T-shirt- Primark men ( with about half a bottle of bleach thrown at it at home)

Denim Culottes- Simply Be last year

Bag- Zara

Two tone aviator glasses- Ebay ( about £2 including delivery!)

Holographic trainers- Primark

BYTAYLORJAYNE

International Women’s Day #beboldforchange

Belfast, event, feminism, inspirations, Personal, photography, Positivity, womens rights

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“We cannot all succeed when half of us are held back.” – Malala Yousafzai

On March 8th it is International Women’s Day. 

“Call on the masses or call on yourself to help forge a better working world – a more gender inclusive world.”

Every year the day has an official theme and this year the theme fell under the title of be bold for change. It was a call to have women all over the world pledge to do something to help change.

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Thank you to these girls for allowing me to photograph them and their message 🙂 

I am not sure how many of you are from Ireland North or South but one uniting factor is the lack of Abortion laws which are in place in either country, I can only speak from the perspective as someone who has grown up in Northern Ireland so that is how I will base my writings. I have never previously shied away from talking about big topics because I am a firm believer that if you choose to put yourself out there on a social platform that you also should use your platform to discuss openly and honestly about topics that affect you.

I will however preface my opinion by saying that I understand that the vast majority of the population will have a total opposing opinion to my own and that it is ok as long as everyone is respectful of everyone else it is important to have open and challenging conversations as I believe that is how we make and affect change by being opening and honest in our discussions. 

In Northern Ireland women can still face 14 years in prison for supplying or being found in possession of drugs which cause an abortion. 14 years , I can’t even let that sink in enough. In the mainland UK women have rights and access yet in Northern Ireland we are simply left with no rights and that scares me.  I have to be responsible for my own body, sort my own birth control, work through periods and all the crap that comes along with that yet at the end of the day my reproductive rights are not my own.

Yesterday a peaceful protest  in aid of Strike for Repeal was held at the front of Belfast city hall to show solidarity with our sisters in the South of Ireland who were also holding a rally to Repeal the 8th amendment which makes abortion illegal. in 2017 we have no rights over our own bodies which is why is it crucial that we still must go out and protest this law because our Government will not help us. I could write about all the issues with Northern Ireland and our government but I will save that for another day.

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What you notice on days of protest is the spirit of everyone there, we are optimistic, and seeing others standing up for what you also believe in is so inspiring. It is my opinion that we need to legalise abortion in order to give it the protection that women deserve when they are having to make this decision. Abortion has always happened and will always happen so having the protection of the NHS or other clinics ensures that we do not have to listen to any more horror stories of women having to travel to the UK mainland in order to go through the procedure. Women are more than just a vessel to make children and our government happily gives more rights to that then they do to the women who have to go through it , not taking into consideration the physical or mental well being of the women.

At the protest I witnessed a man come up right into the face of a women standing with a banner and aggressively argue her that her banner which included the Uterus offended him. When she asked him to remove himself from her face as he was becoming more and more aggressive he turned to the crowd and screamed that we all must just be a bunch of lesbians. That is nothing else perfectly illustrates the mindsets and views that we still find ourselves regularly coming up against. Your opinion is invalid and worthy of being shut down because of a the outdated and naive angry lesbian feminist stereotype that time and time again is used to label us.

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If I can make one crucial one out of all of this it is this, even if my opinion is not yours. You may not agree with what I stand for nor do you have to but I urge you that when you see an opportunity to take to the streets and count for something that you find the time to do so. It might be a rally  or signing a petition, it might be sharing something on Facebook or another platform. it might be defending you opinion to a random person you encounter in life. Please be respectful and stay safe but above all your opinion is valid you are allowed to show how you feel and you do not have to sit back and take something because it has always been that way. You and your opinion are valid and worthy.

Last year I attended a huge march to protest the laws and this year this is the first but probably not the last rally or march that will be held. Our latest vote in Northern Ireland gives you a small glimmer of hope that we will cling to.

Big issues are not going away and we will not walk away and let the government have the rights to our bodies.

We are here, we wont go away and you will listen to us. 

#BEBOLDFORCHANGE#BEBOLDFORCHANGE#BEBOLDFORCHANGE

BYTAYLORJAYNE

STYLED: memory lane

Fashion, Outfit of the day, Personal, photography, Plus size

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Memory… is the diary that we all carry about with us.

Location: Cathedral Quarter / Writers Square

I decided that at the start of this year that I was going to relaunch and create a new chapter in my life I called By Taylor-Jayne because that is my name. Simple as that. But seriously I wanted it to be simple because I felt like this new chapter was going to be much more personal that previous blogs. I want to use my favourite places as inspiration for the posts and shoot all my posts in areas of Belfast and beyond that are important to me. We begin this new journey in one of my favourite areas of the city centre getting lost along the cobble streets of Cathedral quarter is a great way to find new bars, restaurants and street art that are so inspiring to me.

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My favourite Primark tote totally makes me feel like Tina from Bobs Burgers

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Details:

Boyfriend Coat- OLD RIVER ISLAND

Grey high neck top- Primark

Band tee- New Look Curves

Pinafore Dress- New Look Curves

Tights- Primark

Gucci Faux Loafers- Primark

Tote- Primark

BYTAYLORJAYNE

GingerSnapsCollege: Final Chapter

event, Fashion, gingersnapscollege, Lifestyle, Outfit of the day, Personal, photography, Positivity, Self love

 

On Monday 9th November 2015 I Graduated with a 2:1 Bsc Hons Fashion Management. I decided to share my graduation photos with you guys as I used my blog for the last three years to document my degree. It was a tough three years and as much as I did enjoy the degree I am so relieved to say it is all behind me. Alot of sleepless nights, haribo and takeaways where the only thing to get me through the final part, it was difficult, not impossible and I did it. My family and friends were the greatest strength getting me through my degree and I was so happy to have my whole family with me on the day. 

I have to say a massive thank you to my little brother who turned photographer for the day and created some beautiful memories from the day, it may have been cold and damp all day but we still had a brilliant time. 

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My brother

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My mother

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My father

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My sister

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Dress- Evans Last year

Bag- Primark

Boots- New Look last year

Glitter socks- Primark 

Until next time…T-J xo

Paris is always a good idea | Part One

fashion, fashion show, inspirations, Lifestyle, Personal, Shopping, Travel

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So my trip may have been in February, early February at that I am only just now getting around posting up my photos but that kind of explains how manic everything was post Paris, I went with my class for three days with the primary focus being on attending Premier Vision, a fashion exhibition where companies can sell to designers etc. We went on the student day which I think was Wednesday, if you are a student go on this day as you pay a reduced rate for entry. To sum up my trip as a whole would be difficult on one hand Paris is a beautiful city, exploring the streets for two days was my favourite part myself and the two girls I was exploring with decided not to use up time by going into the Louvre or the other indoor experiences but instead to invest our time in exploring the streets. We did of course visit the Eiffel Tower because I had never been and it was something to tick off my list but the queues where crazy so instead of going up the tower with further explored the city.

One thing that I wasn’t overall aware of before I went was just how poor a city Paris is and how many street scams there are around. One top tip I could give would be to keep your wits about you and do not fall into these tourist traps, I myself ended up having to give one man around fourteen euro because he had grabbed my wrist to make a bracelet onto my wrist and wouldn’t let go. It can be scary so just make sure that you are not travelling alone and that you do not stop or interact with people who you can see trying to pull a scam, I don’t want to put anyone off of visiting Paris and I myself would go back again I just wish I had done more research before I had gone to ensure that I wouldn’t fall for street scams. The scams where mainly in tourist hot spots, it was at Sacre Couer that the bracelet incident happened to me. Just make sure that you stay together and you will have a great time.

Transport is pretty easy in Paris we ended up using the Metro trains to get around, they work on the same principle as the London Underground and don’t take too long to get used to. It is a pretty inexpensive system and we ended up purchasing day tickets for around twenty euros which helped seeing as our accommodation was about an hour outside of Paris. Taxis are also pretty efficient in Paris however they can be quite expensive so I would only recommend them if you are travelling as a group of about 6 because they will charge for each piece of luggage and person after a certain number which would make a half an hour journey for six people about sixty euro but if you need to get back to your hotel late at night then I would recommend using the taxis. Luckily the night we decided to go onto the Champs Elysees we were heading back in time to make the last train to CDG airport which was close to our hotel.

The food in Paris ( excluding our hotel but that is the rant I am saving for the next section) was amazing, as a cheese obsessive I didn’t eat a meal for three days that didn’t include some form of cheese, the food we found was mostly inexpensive but we were just trying to budget. On the night we went to the Champs Elysees for dinner we found a nautical themed restaurant which despite the location cost us about twenty euro for dinner, that was however just a main course and drink but we had budgeted to have one “fancy dinner” during our time in Paris. What I will say that from the expierence at this particular restaurant it was clear that the waiters work almost against each other to bring in people and where ever you our sitting depends on which waiter gets the tips. This became obvious when the waiter who greeted us at the door encouraged us to wait for a table to empty whilst the whole back of the restaurant was empty, when it became clear this was for his benefit we insisted to sit at the back much to his protest. Again I am not trying to point out the flaws but I do feel like I want to create an honest account of my time so that you guys if you are wanting to go to Paris are totally aware of what to expect. A final note is that if you are over the legal drinking age and like wine then the cheap bottles of four euro rose are the way to go!

Accommodation, now my personal expierence was pretty terrible as far as accommodation went but that was pretty much entirely to blame for the fact that our trip was booked through our college and they went for cheap and close to the exhibition space instead of seeing that we would have two days that weren’t anything to do with the exhibition. We were staying roughly an hour from central Paris which was a total pain when it came to going out and about because you had to allow so much time to get anywhere. The hotel itself was more of an apartment complex and what we were told were 4 bedroom apartments where actually four bed apartments meaning a double bed which could be spilt into two singles and a double bed. We were sharing with friends but even so it was alot of deal with after a very stressful first day in the city.

One key element would be to go with a group of friends, I previously mentioned that the purpose of my trip was for one of my college classes so we went as a class. This to be honest was more of an issue because it meant travelling in a large group which is difficult if you are in a new city because trying to learn new travel systems is stressful enough without having to stick with twenty other people doing the same thing. we ended up getting people physically trapped in metro doors on day one because the stop time is very quick on the metro. We ended up spending the majority of the trip in much smaller groups after this because it meant we could explore without being restricted. One major recommendation I would have is when you are away creating a whatsapp group or some other messenger group which meant that we could all keep in touch even if we were all in different areas of the city and also to check in with our tutors in the evening to let them know we were back in the hotel.

To summarise this rather oversized post ( don’t worry the next post will be all my photos) I loved Paris but I do wish I was better planned with regards to working out exactly where to go on each day so minimise time wasting, however in regards to that one of the best pieces of advice we got was from the receptionist in our hotel who spent a good half an hour with us planning where to go and in what order which on our last day meant we got so much done because we had a system in place. Hope you guys found this post interesting/ helpful.

Until next time…T-J xo

 

 

#STYLEHASNOSIZE

Fashion, Outfit of the day, Personal, photography, Plus size, Positivity, Style

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“We believe that style is not about the size you wear; it’s about how you style your
size. Our #STYLEHASNOSIZE campaign celebrates every woman’s shape
and style – a message to challenge preconceptions and bring together
women with a mantra that really matters.”

After writing THIS post at the start of the year and getting such incredible feedback from it I have consciously shifted towards creating more content focused on the areas of self love and feeling good in the skin you are in. As I mentioned previously I have started working in Evans in Belfast and through this I was introduced to the brands latest campaign #STYLEHASNOSIZE which is a campaign in conjunction with the rainbow trust to launch the brands connection to the charity, the launch of the in-store personal shoppers and most importantly to inspire women to feel great at whatever size they are at. This whole campaign really struck something within me because for a  long time I have been trying to champion dressing for how you want to dress instead of what you feel you should be dressing. if you you want to wear a crop top WEAR IT if you want to wear skinny jeans WEAR THEM.

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I totally understand and respect that for alot of women this will all be easier said than done because we are so used to society trying to tell us how to dress, think and feel in regards to our size. Something I have mentioned before is being sick of being told by society that my body is a before picture, the only time I see women I can remotely relate to in popular publications is when my body is being shown as something to aspire to get away from. I shouldnt look at my body as a finished result, I should have no desire to look like this for a long term thing.

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My body is covered in all my lumps, bumps and everything in between but you know what… that’s fine by me. This is my shape now, this might not always be my shape by currently at twenty two years old this is how I look and I will be damned to let other people dictate to me that this body is anything but great. Putting all health queries aside as I know all to well that these are the first questions posed when a plus size girl mentions that she is happy in the skin she is in, I have come to a point in my life where I will not let other people influence my happiness when it comes to my body. This is MY home, MY body, MY shelter MY everything and you cannot try to define me as any different because that serves a purpose for you.

 

Something which I have really enjoyed recently was the documentary created by channel four Plus Sized Wars  which was highlighting the rise of the plus-size industry in the UK and interviewed some of the biggest bloggers in the industry to document their feelings. It also put a big focus onto the signing of Tess Munster making her the first girl her size to be signed to a major industry and the storm that occurred around that. It is definitely worth a watch if you can because even just watching the girls dispel alot of myths that surround plus-size is great viewing.

I decided once we received the t-shirts in work that I wanted to create a series of images showing you guys that above everything else, this is me, this is my body and no one can make me change that. I dress, act and speak as myself and for myself and will not be altered by the constant pressures from society around me. My size is stylish, my style is not measurable by the numbers on a label, my style is not defined by letters, numbers or the opinions of others #STYLEHASNOSIZE

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T-shirt can be bought here : http://www.evans.co.uk/en/evuk/product/evans-ivory-style-has-no-size-t-shirt-4430930

All photographs taken by my sister Abbey Tytler

all profits from the t-shirt and tote bad sales go to the Rainbow Trust 

Until next time…Tj xo